Relationship with my sexually abusive sister
Saboobnah responded to: “Sexually abusive sister”: Do you still talk? How is her history affecting her husbands and kids?
Well (sticky situation here, as her information is private, but…) a lot. She is verbally abused by her husband, (at least verbally) and so are her boys. At least verbally. She isn’t much of a mother, at the least (she was afraid to even clean their circumcisions when they were born because she thought it would make her a child molester, so they got infected). She feeds them, but doesn’t make an effort to bond with them. Maybe her molesting me in the past causes the guilt that leads to this behavior, I’m not sure…
She seems very kind to her kids (as far as I can tell) but lets her husband push the toddlers around and scream at them, as well as belittling her.
She has begun to repress more and more of our childhood memories, too. Things I used to talk openly with her about, she now says she can’t recall. This leads to terrible nightmares that effect her family (since they all sleep in the same bed) and gives her flashbacks that cause uncontrolled rage, fearful or brainwashed reactions and a general inability to look out for the wellbeing of my nephews.
She’s a good mom in the short-term, but I fear every day that she isn’t really watching out for her sons in a real way. And deep down, as well as I feel I know her, I wonder if she molests them the way she did me. =(
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