This is not Goldenphoenixgirl
Why are people getting on your case about "making it a witch hunt"? Why do they care whenever an abusive liar gets a witch hunt on her or not after all the shit she's done?

Because when this first started it quickly derailed into a quest to find proof that she was lying, and when this blog first got put up one of the admins was pushing about how the point of this was to uncover her lies, which it’s not — it’s to call her out on her abusive shit and make sure that she knows that her bullshit is not welcome here and will not be tolerated.

But searching down reasons that someone’s lying and putting more emphasis on that than on the other things that she’s doing is basically a witch hunt, so that’s something.

There are also a lot of people who were defending her, so that’s also a thing.

The person who originally called it a witch hunt did so more out of wariness from the signal boost, because with the climate on this site, there have been a lot of posts that are basically witch hunts, so it makes sense that someone would be wary and hesitant to believe that this is any different.

Basically, I think it’s a combination of all of these things, mixed with a whole lot of abuse apologism.

-R

Thanks for doing what you're doing. It's so important that somebody exposed her for who she really was. I mean, I'm really upset right now because I trusted her with my CSA story and spent so much energy on her that would have been better used on my own recovery but I'm glad you exposed her before she could hurt anyone else. Thank you. Hugs if you want some and chocolate and bubble baths and assorted cupcakes and anything that would make you feel good.
Anonymous

No problem. I’m sorry that you had such a shitty experience and that you were betrayed. Thanks for your support, it really does mean a lot, and I do wish you the best of luck.

-R

Perhaps the most random thing was when Goldenphoenixgirl criticized a girl she didn't know for not adding trigger warnings to a post describing a nightmare she had had. That poor girl got much hate back then.
Anonymous

Asking someone to add trigger warnings is a legitimate point (especially since this girl put it in the human trafficking tag).

But that’s not what goldenphoenixgirl did. She reblogged this post, yelled at her, linked back to her story, made this girl out to be the scum of the earth because for her, it was only a dream, but for people like GPG, it was a harsh reality…

And that, along with her history of taking completely innocent text posts and using them as an excuse to link to her story as if we’d somehow forgotten that she was a child prostitute since the last time she reminded us like five minutes ago, makes me believe that it was less about calling someone out or about asking someone to put trigger warnings on something, and more about showing someone up, making a show for her followers, and generally about being self righteous. Also, verbally abusing and publicly humiliating that girl.

-R

I guess this is more of a general statement so you don't have to force it, but I just wanted to express that I HATE it when abused people use their abuse as an excuse to abuse other people and guilt trip others with the fact that they were abused. I too was abused and I could never, ever do that (my abusive ex used his own abuse and threats to guilt trip me into staying with him and having sympathy for him). Manipulative people like this just make me physically ill ):
Anonymous

That is basically what she’s been doing, too, and it’s awful and disgusting when people do that.

-R

So is her story fake?
Anonymous

There is no definitive proof either way, although there are a lot of undeniable inconsistencies within her story that might make it worth investigating. If any undeniable proof comes up either way, then that would be something. Until then, everything is speculation and inferences.

However, at the end of the day, the point is not whether or not she’s lying or telling the truth, but rather that she is an awful, abusive person who has manipulated people’s sympathies in order to get away with it, and that is what the point is, and what it needs to stay focused on.

-R

Even when I was fully on her side, it always made me uncomfortable when she'd bring up her history of abuse in completely unrelated asks. I didn't fault her for it at the time (because I didn't realise how bad it was) but now I look back and it's so manipulative. She's just trying to guilt-trip people for asking basic questions (maybe some people who are ignorant, but still, it's not fair or helpful to do that).
Anonymous

I noticed that too. Literally everything on her blog somehow gets linked back to that, regardless of whether or not it’s even related to her current actions (the car accident, for instance), or if someone was calling her out. There have been a few times when she’s reblogged people’s completely unrelated text posts and linked it back to her story.

Personally, I believe that she’s taking advantage of Tumblr’s insistence that the victim be believed at all times, and from there she’s mutilated it so that any criticism against her would become an attack on her validity, therefore invalidating anything that anyone might every say against her and presenting herself as a victim.

-R

I just realized something (not trying to disprove her but...). If her mouth was held open so wide it tore ligaments, why isn't there any scarring around the edges of her mouth? It would take a lot of force to hold a person's mouth wide enough for the ligaments to tear, but the edges of their mouth should also show signs of being torn.

It also takes surgery to fix torn ligaments as well.

Again, medical inconsistencies that were abundant absolutely everywhere.

-R

Also something people defending her photos seem to forget, she was in a suggestive pose in a skin tight onesie or leotard, no part of her body hidden for all of facebook to see. For someone who is "triggered" so much, that doesn't add up for me.
Anonymous

A lot of things she’s said are completely inconsistent with what she’s also said, and I suppose this is another example of that.

-R

hey sorry but who's raymond?
Anonymous

Raymond is her current boyfriend. She met him sometime in the first half of 2013, flew out to visit him, and as soon as things with Dan went tits up financially, she bailed on Dan, flew Raymond out to visit her (while she still had no money, obviously), and then proceeded to road trip across the entire country with him. Currently, she’s allegedly staying in a hotel in Maryland with him, paid for by his father, who also paid for a lot of the road trip. Since this whole thing came to light, he’s deleted his blog and his Facebook. There’s a video where she verbally abused him for like 25 minutes.

-R

It's astounding to me that so many people (myself included) didn't notice so many of her abusive behaviors until this shitstorm started. Going back through her blog after realizing how bad she was, I noticed her abuse everywhere. But while I was following her, I didn't pay attention or catch onto it at all. That is so scary to me, and I'm definitely going to keep my eyes open for it in the future.
Anonymous

A lot of people didn’t realize, because firstly, it wasn’t all at once. She had reasons for doing what she was doing — she was hurt, she was upset, she was just lashing out. She hid her abuse well, so someone who had already been led to believe that she was a good person or who subscribed to the idea that she was entitled to her shittiness because of her abuse would believe her. She was not stupid when she did this, but eventually, she got thoughtless and arrogant.

Anyway, the important thing at this point is that you know now. It’s hard to confront the fact that someone you might have respected or admired is actually an awful person, and it’s also hard — and scary — to realize that you didn’t just see it.

But you see it now, and like you said, you’ll keep a look out for it now. That is important, and that means something.

-R

Hey. I've been following this Goldenphoenixgirl thing from the outside, and as much as I don't like what she's done, I was just wondering why you've decided to concentrate on her. What are you getting out of this? And what about the many other abusers on Tumblr? I know it's to protect people from getting hurt by her in the future etc etc and that's great. But why do YOU care so much about it?
Anonymous

She was a well known, prolific blogger who advertised herself as a safe space and a reliable source of help, despite the fact that she was an abusive sack of shit who hurt people, lied about it, and reframed it so that anyone who called her out as being abusive was made to sound like the abusive one.

Her blog has been linked several times as a resource for help, and that puts her, an abuser, in a position of power over vulnerable people who genuinely need and look for help.

As for what I’m getting out of it, I get the peace of mind that there’s one less abuser on this site, and that even if she comes back, she will not be welcomed.

I’m not singling her out specifically, either; I’ve called out shitty text posts before, and I’ve called out a lot of shitty attitudes, too. This particular issue just happened to get really big, and my entire blog (as well as a few other people’s) was basically turning into a goldenphoenixgirl blog, much like this one, and no one wanted that, so this blog happened.

-R

I'm on mobile, so this could e a glitch, but when she URL swapped, did she delete/privatize her old content? It doesn't show up for me.
Anonymous

Yes, that is exactly what happened. Her url is changed, she’s changed the theme of her blog so it would only show up if you put /mobile at the end of it, pretty much everything has either been deleted or made private, but either way, it’s no longer there, and she seems to have backed off for the time being, at least.

-R

Do u still have her story?
Anonymous

Ta da. 

(I assume you mean this one, at least.)

-R

How do you do a reverse image search?
Anonymous

Right click the image and hit “search google for this image.”
-R

I always believed GPG's story. However, I remember reading something that made me suspicious a few months ago. She describes how her father forced oral sex on her, and she says that even as a baby that is one of her first memories. If she was a baby she can't remember being raped because her memory wouldn't have yet developed at this stage.
Anonymous

dirty-girl-gettin-down:

goldenphoenixgirl:

dirty-girl-gettin-down:

goldenphoenixgirl:

This is something I have seen proof regarding, so I’ll post it. Most studies agree that children begin having proper memories and remembering trauma at around three years of age. GPG claims to remember being sexually abused at eighteen months to two, in vivid detail. This is physically impossible for any human. The part of the brain that deals with that is simply not developed yet. -A

At two, they can retain day to day memory, if something is repeated enough. My daughter remembered the name of her favorite show after seeing it occasionally, for a month. Even knows the theme song. She’s two and a half. So, it’s plausible that if Urissa were raped often, at those ages, she would possibly remember. Just not as vividly as she claims. BUT I read somewhere that the human brain fills in the blanks, so to speak.

She remembers it vividly at eighteen months, though, and also remembers other non-repetitive things, such as clinging to her mother as she was passed over, the fact that she was in the shower, and pretty much every disgusting thing in this screencap. She even remembers the smells associated with it. I think that’s too detailed for an eighteen month old. -A

EDIT: According to this source here, “More specifically, events experienced before the age of about 18 months do not seem to be verbally accessible; events experienced between about 18 months and 2.5–3 years are reported in fragmentary fashion and seem to be prone to increasing error over time.” So while she could remember the event, it would be fragmented, and a lot of the details we read are likely frabrications.

I agree. I was just stating what I said so that others did not doubt their memories. I have a friend who convicted a man who raped her at two when she was twelve, after her mother took her to a therapist for nightmares.

That’s a worthy point, but we’ve made it clear in our posts about agoraphobia that this blog is a criticism of GPG and GPG only, and any claims we make apply directly to her. In regards to it being physically impossible for any human, below two it is physically impossible for any human to remember it in that much detail, hence why your friend likely remembered through fragmented nightmares and then with the aid of therapy. -A