June 2012
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saboobnah-deactivated20121204 asked: Can you post a source to 95% of abusers being male, please?
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Child prostitute speaks on adult prostitution!
Anonymous asked: Hey, as someone who was forced into prostitution, I’m curious as to how you feel about consensual sex work. I was also wondering how you got out of your situation? I think it’s really amazing that you can talk about this so openly, by the way. You’re pretty inspiring.
Thank you! I feel consensual sex work is the choice of the person involeved. It, of course,...
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“Today, a man (who represented the statistically 95% of abusers)
told me that...”
writingmyrevenge asked: Oh my god, that is horrifying! :( I can't believe that ANYONE would blame you for that.
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How can human trafficking happen in the US? Like... →
sliverdemon:
A girl “barged” into my house selling magazines. She was on a sales rampage, trying to get me to give her a ride out to an ATM. When I resisted, and insisted on googling her company, the third result down was a ripoff report. I scanned it. I mentioned throwing her out, if she was going to insist on being so pushy. At that point, she stormed out.
On closer inspection, it...
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edgeraid asked: I'm not sure if you received my last ask, but nonetheless; I'd like you to know how amazing you are for being able to share your hardships with so many people, and for being able to get through so much and still want to help others. You are a true inspiration, and please always remember to stay strong. I really admire you and I hope that you have a nice day!
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Hey, rape fans! →
Hey, rape fans!
Yeah, who’s listening up?
Here’s the deal. If you claim to be anti-rape, you’ve actually got to be anti-rape. You can’t (supposedly) hate rape, while still love everything which enables rape and follows from the fact that we live in a rape culture.
That’s like calling yourself vegan as long as you didn’t actually kill the cow. It’s totally cool for you to load and hand over the...
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writingmyrevenge asked: You said in one of your last posts that you got pregnant at 14. What happened? Did you carry to term? If so, what happened with the baby?
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“Dear man who just chose to message me that feminism (the idea that my rights are...”
May 2012
227 posts
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Look me in the eye and tell me I asked for it. →
nick-knack-kitty-cat:
Look me in the eye and tell me I asked for it.
Look me in the eye and tell me I am lying.
Look me in the eye and tell me that I only turned them in because I want to ruin the military.
Look me in the eye and call me a slut.
Look me in the eye and call me a faker.
Look me in the eye and tell me I deserved it.
Look me in the eye and tell me I’m making too big a deal of...
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Non-victim to child prostitute: slutwalk makes you...
alittlepainalittlepleasure: said: You call yourself a feminist, Yet you…
-Support the premise of Slutwalk,
-Have no problem concealing their sexual irresponsibility with abortion.
…Someone’s clearly causing their own oppression if you ask me.
Really? And as someone prostituted by my own mother and father, BY men TO men from age 2, am I supporting my own subjugation as well? Did I ask...
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Feminism: "clearly you asked for this treatment."
alittlepainalittlepleasure:
Yet you…
-Support the premise of Slutwalk,
-Have no problem concealing their sexual irresponsibility with abortion.
Someone’s clearly causing their own oppression if you ask me.
Really? And as someone prostituted by my own mother and father, BY men TO men from age 2, am I supporting my own subjugation as well? Did I ask for it? What about the many, many girls...
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"I wouldn't mind if THEY killed themselves!"
nothingnesss:
now my friends are talking about suicide -.-
i really want them to go. They’re just saying: “omg, i wouldn’t mind is so n so killed themselves. i hate them.” if they had any idea how i felt, i hope they’d feel bad. they’re so fucking shallow and rude sometimes.
Suicide is never a joke. It is never a fun topic of conversation. In any small group, you usually have at least...
what-will-become-of-us asked: after you replied to me I thought I'd look at your blog, and I just want to say how much of an inspiration you are, you're so brave being able to talk about what happened to you and helping other people.. By what I've seen you've been through a lot and you deserve to be happy, I just hope that you stay as strong as you can <3
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“To call woman the weaker sex is a libel; it is man’s injustice to woman. If by...”
– Mahatma Gandhi
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If she "asked for it," then it's not rape
xkatie01xo:
I can’t stand it when someone says that it’s the rape victim’s own fault that they got raped because of what they were wearing.
It’s not the girl’s fault, it’s the rapist’s fault.
No one asks to get raped.
No one wants it.
No one.
If they “asked” for it, then it wouldn’t be called rape.
That’s sex.
They never wanted it, so stop blaming them,
Including me.
corvidaet asked: First of all, I just want to say that I think you are so brave for writing all of this down and sharing it. I admire you deeply. Secondly, I am writing an essay on victim-shaming and rape culture, and I was wondering if I could ask you some questions about any victimshaming and blaming you have faced. I totally understand if you don't want to or feel unable to, as this must be a very...
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How to KILL your suicidal anons:
I came across a blog, in which a suicidal anon asked for help, and the blogger answered that they must simply focus on the love of their family. I sent her a message.
ME: Hey, I think it’s great that you’re trying to help people like me, who are struggling with suicide! I did want to say though, a lot of people (me to name one) are actually suicidal BECAUSE they have no family or...
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“It’s time to replace the sniggering description of prostitution as the “oldest...”
– Ohio Rep. Teresa Fedor (D)
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How to help a sexually abused friend:
Anonymous asked: hi, you and blog are amazing, your strength is incredibly humbling. I don’t know if you can advise me on this, but my partner was sexually abused as a child and he’s very much up and down but has come to terms with what happened. the thing is, I’m never sure how much to push him on it, would I be wrong to encourage him to share more details and seek justice? I...
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If you're considering giving an abuser a 2nd...
(or 3rd or 4th…. or 6th etc.) Remember that not one single study has ever been able to show a long-term change from a person being abusive to becoming (and remaining) non-abusive. Abusers don’t change.
If it seems only fair to you to give that ex another chance, remember there are people out there waiting for their first chance with you.
You rarely get new results by repeating...
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"Your mom FORCED your dad to rape you?"
notreeawaits replied to your post: [TW] Rape and more: “WHY did your parents DO that?”
“How would she force him?”
I’m sorry, that was actually my bad: I said that because that was how she said it when she spoke to me. You can’t FORCE someone to rape another person, but I was a child when she told me she had control over when/how/if he raped me, so when she...
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[TW] Rape and more: "WHY did your parents DO...
[TW rape, incest]
saboobnah said: Was that (your parents having sex in bed with you right after raping you) a dominance thing, or a jealousy thing?
Good question. I can only speculate, but I think I have a pretty good idea. For him - it was dominance and recreation. Simple. For her, I think it was both jealousy and dominance over me. She encouraged him to rape us, then heard the sounds and...
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[STRONG trigger warning] my TWISTED family
Again, trigger warning - rape, parents, incest
I can’t remember how old I was… between 14 and 16…
My father had just brutally raped me. (This happened frequently, in addition to my being sold as a prostitute since toddlerhood). He often liked to make me lie down with him while he napped afterward. So I would lie there, sometimes pretending to sleep.
As I was lying on the bed,...
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““If you wanted to kill yourself you wouldn’t be talking about it,...”
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So scared to share the details, but I must
…once again spending the better part of my morning and afternoon shaky and jittery and scared because I’m about to publish a humiliating story of rape from days being prostituted and raped by my family.
Am I scared to death to share this? You bet your ass. But I know hiding it would only increase my shame, and sharing it would help others like me - so in about an hour and half - my...
meravisabeast asked: Hi, I've been reading through your blog and your story feels so heartwrenching and true, I admire you for your dedication in maintaining this blog. It must be so terrifying having to relive traumas and answer triggering questions every day, but your cause is so great! I've never been a victim of assault/rape, but I want to know what there is to be supportive to any survivors I might meet...
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pinkichigochan:
www.notforsalecampaign.org www.facebook.com/notforsalekorea
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“There’s something interesting about the rate at which men in prison are raped:...”
– Derrick Jensen: The Culture of Make Believe (via emerycatt)
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sometimes just listening and understanding helps...
sleepingwithmyeyesopen:
<3
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“The frontal lobe developed last and helps us rationalize things that the back of...”
– (via elegantone)
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Definition of Rape Culture
Becauseiamawoman said: Rape culture may be somewhat related to an unwillingness to confront sexual realities and a culture that also glorifies violence, but a more accurate definition would be something along the lines of a culture where sexual assault and rape are not only common, but excused, accepted, and/or tolerated by the practices and norms of the culture. All of these things are definitly...
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sex trafficking (POV of a real victim)
sosodeb:
600,000 – 800,000 men, women and children are trafficked across international borders each year.
The average age of entry into prostitution is between 11-14 years old.
Human Trafficking is now recognized as the second largest criminal industry in the world.
Houston is well known as a set up for ‘training brothels’
25% of all human trafficking victims are in Texas (U.S. Department...
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Maybe I am not the survivor I thought I was. I am...
I’ll tell you (as a human trafficking victim who makes it through daily flashbacks and is still healing) how you “win” after being raped.
You feel as much anger as what comes naturally. If (and this is RARE) you someday find yourself becoming a bitter person, you can pull back your anger at that point. First, in order to heal at all you have to acknowledge how horrible what...
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kittenary asked: Do you ever resent your older half-sister for being away from the situation that you were in?
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Anonymous asked: Should you ever just call the police? I heard that can make it worse.
When someone is being abused, the police (although it’s 80% or more of their job) usually have little to no training in domestic violence. In fact, I believe a stat I read recently said 40% of homes run by a policeman were abusive. So, I typically avoid telling people to call the police. HOWEVER - if...
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How to help a friend who cuts
carameldelight55 asked:
whats the best way to help a loved one that cuts? and what comments are safe to say when they say its not a good enough cut or it isn’t deep
Good question! First, offer (don’t demand) to be in the room while they do it. Tell them you don’t have to watch, but you’d like to support them by being there.
If they’re saying “That’s...
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Anonymous asked: I am a 22 year old female and I have been abused and raped repeatedly - most recently a year ago. I suffer from severe depression, PTSD, SH, etc. as well. I struggle to stay in college due to all of this. Do you have any tips for how to get through college?
Don’t push yourself too hard! While I was going through some of the worst of my abuse and recovered memories, I took...
toxicrants asked: Dear Phoenix Girl, please never leave us. You've been through all this pain and you still find the courage to answer personal questions. You stand as an example to those who may go through the same as you. You are a triumph in yourself, that you survived and are an inspiration to a new generation. You are priceless. Of more worth than anyone who ever hurt you, more valuable than any amount of...
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Anonymous asked: My mom’s first husband abused her, but she got out with her son (my older half brother) as soon as she could. She said there’s nothing you can really do to help women who are in abusive relationships because most of them are in denial and WANT to be in the relationship for whatever reason. Is that true?
Depends on the person being abused. Abuse is a systematic brainwashing that...
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somebodywakemefromthisnightmare asked:
i need to stop cutting this there anything u can tell me to help?
Well, just stopping cutting is a pretty tall order. The thing is, cutting is like the cough and your reason for cutting (say depression, abuse in your past etc) is like the tuberculosis. You can suppress the cough for a time, but unless you deal with core illness, it’s just coming...
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writingmyrevenge asked: I remember you saying at some point that you were adopted when you were a baby. Were your siblings adopted as well?