May 2013
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Yes →
morbidor: Great article about shifting from “tell me when to stop” to “what do you want?”. This is about women and our right be be given a chance to say “yes,” rather than being expected to simply stop our partner after they initiate sex. Very worth reading. 
May 25th
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May 25th
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May 24th
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“Someday, you may also be called upon to defend all that is dear to you. When...”
– Yu’lon (via arcaneenergy)
May 24th
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‘It is impossible to separate trafficking and...
humantrafficwatch: The Department of Justice says that although human trafficking and prostitution sometimes overlap, “human trafficking and prostitution are different phenomena requiring distinct policy responses”. Human trafficking is already illegal, as is child… View Post And let’s not forget the huge overlap in other forms of illegal activity (like drug trafficking and the...
May 23rd
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mamamantis: hey how about we stop ragging on people who self-diagnose bc not everyone has access to mental health care facilities and resources and hey maybe just MAYBE someone who chooses to self-diagnose is not merely searching for mental illnesses to use as interesting trinkets with which to garnish their personality but rather seeking out an explanation for difficulties that are impacting...
May 23rd
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May 22nd
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May 22nd
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Your sexual behavior is my concern, because...
It’s so slutty. You’re going to get an STD. You’re not really happy doing this. Promiscuity grosses me out. I’m just concerned for you. I’m happy with a different lifestyle. You need to be like me. It’s a sin, and it offends my religion. You aren’t respecting yourself. If I don’t watch my reaction to it carefully, I may selfishly blame you for trying to live a happy and fulfilling life.
May 18th
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10 Ways To Be Supportive
psych-quotes: Relationships aren’t all fun and games. Life happens and one of you will be bound to lose a loved one, have a sick family member, etc. Being a good partner means standing by through good times and bad. The good times are easy to handle. Here are some tips on how to be supportive through tough times: 1.      Listen. Let them know right away that you’re there for them if and when...
May 18th
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May 17th
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May 17th
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May 16th
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May 16th
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That moment when a trigger hits in *precisely* the...
May 15th
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Human Trafficking & PTSD: Is there a connection?  →
dontsellbodies: This article identifies the signs of PTSD. Commonly thought to afflict only war veterans, many survivors of human trafficking suffer from this debilitating mental illness.
May 15th
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Angry? Pissed off? Raging? GOOD!
SURVIVORS: Being angry means the following things about you: You are aware of what happened to you. You understand that what happened to you was wrong. You do not accept what happened to you. You hold the perpetrator(s) responsible for their actions. You recognize that you didn’t deserve the abuse. Being angry does the following things to you: Helps you to escape the abuse. Helps...
May 15th
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HERE IS YOUR SCRIPT:
THEM: “I’m being abused.” OR “I was abused.” YOU: “I believe you.” “This matters a lot. I care.” “It’s not your fault.” 
May 14th
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10 things to NEVER say to a survivor:
Why didn’t you just call the police? What were you wearing/what part of town was it/why were you there? God let that happen to you for a reason. Maybe you’ll help others. Ew, gross. (Emphasis on the act being gross, rather than the perp) Just try not to dwell on it so much. That doesn’t really sound like rape/abuse. I would never let that happen to me. I would just… leave/hit...
May 14th
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May 13th
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May 13th
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101 triggers
For those of you who haven’t experienced a trigger… for me at least, it’s a little slice of hell. Actually reliving, seeing, tasting and experiencing being tortured and raped as a child prostitute because something caused a trigger. I spend most of my day avoiding these and while not all of these things trigger me all of the time, most usually do. Here are just a few of the...
May 11th
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May 11th
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"concern troll" just attacked me
So I get this “nice” message just now. They say how inspirational I am and how my story has inspired them. They want to help by recommending a series of self-help videos on youtube. Needing some help today (I’m already in major pain and very triggered) I gratefully listen to the videos. They center entirely on forgetting your troubles and choosing to believe that everything is...
May 10th
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agoraphobia
fishgingersandcustard: I did research and I legit have agoraphobia.  Agoraphobia (from Greek ἀγορά, “marketplace”; and φόβος/φοβία, -phobia) is an anxiety disorder characterized by anxiety in situations where the sufferer perceives the environment as being difficult to escape or get help. These situations include, but are not limited to, wide-open spaces, as well as uncontrollable social...
May 10th
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“The sexualization of women is only appealing if it’s nonconsensual. Otherwise...”
– Lindy West, “Female ‘Purity’ Is Bullshit”
May 10th
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Listenwearenotscientists: Just a hastily made...
May 10th
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“I may be crazy, but I’m going saner every day!”
May 10th
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May 9th
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May 9th
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May 9th
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May 8th
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May 8th
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May 8th
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May 8th
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RAPE JOKES:
“I make rape jokes, but I’ve been raped, too. Lighten up!” Translation: “I’m an ex smoker and I’m fine being around people who smoke, now. So I’m going to light up a cigarette and wave it in front of you, because it doesn’t bother me… …is that your oxygen tank?”
May 8th
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“Go away, I’m fine!” is a cry on liars’ lips. Liars still need love.
May 7th
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"Calm down, it's just a joke!"
callmeafeminist:
May 7th
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My brain: You deserved to be raped.
Me: No I didn't.
My brain: -__-
Me: I didn't! No one deserves to be raped. I didn't do anything wrong!
My brain: -__-
Me: ... but I really didn't....
My brain: -__-
Me: ...
Me: ...
Me: ... *cries*
May 7th
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Some words of wisdom for the world:
Right now, there are people all over the world who are just like you. They’re either lonely or they’re missing somebody. They are in love with someone they probably shouldn’t be in love with. They have secrets you wouldn’t believe. They wish and they dream and they hope, and they look out the window whenever they’re in the car or on a bus or a train and they watch people on the streets and wonder what they’ve been through. They wonder if there are people out there like them. They’re like you, and you could tell them everything and they would understand. And right now, they’re sitting here reading these words, and I’m writing this for you so you don’t feel alone anymore.
May 7th
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HEALTHIER THAN YOU THOUGHT: how abuse effects...
Look at the lines below. Which one is longer? It looks like the left one, doesn’t it? But they’re actually the same length.  Your visual system operates by certain laws and principals. It always works the same way, which is why this illusion works the same for you as it does for me (assuming we both have healthy eyesight). This example shows that when we alter the typical...
May 7th
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Elizabeth Smart says abstinence-only education... →
rachelliez: It shouldn’t surprise anyone that there is a strong link between praising virginity and rape culture but it’s be laid out here in pretty depressing terms: Some girls wouldn’t run away from someone who kidnapped and raped them because now they’re worthless.  THIS. As an underage sex trafficking survivor from religious schools - THIS.
May 6th
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May 6th
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Sitting on my bed, watching the rain hit my...
May 6th
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In your opinion, how do abuse and religion...
Do they have no bearing on each other? Does religion harbor abusers? Is religion a way to help get someone through abuse?
May 5th
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Aaaaand.... NO.
FACT: karlyse: goldenphoenixgirl: Most abusers, rapists and child molesters are not mentally ill. They feel entitled and make a choice accordingly. [Let me just trigger warn this for you, karlyse. Trigger- rape, molestation incest, victim-blaming] FACT Women do all those things too, it being reported less doesn’t make it happen any less often. In fact there’s a lovely story lately about...
May 4th
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Online Abuse: Yes, it DOES count.
I’ve had many people message me about being sexually victimized, emotionally abused or taken advantage of online and I’m shocked to see how little research there is on the topic.  The internet is one of the main ways to interact with other people, now. Very real sexual encounters happen online everyday, as do entire relationships. Real friendships and romantic attachements are formed...
May 4th
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FACT:
Most abusers, rapists and child molesters are not mentally ill. They feel entitled and make a choice accordingly.
May 4th
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May 4th
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May 3rd
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